Transition to adulthood: The real deal
“Do what it TAKES! You must accomplish your goals and stay focused on your priorities.”
This is just one of the many encouraging arguments we hear as we move on during our school years.
We have been trained to work hard to reach far. We have been told to have good grades, but we have never been told how to face the worst. We have been told how to eat, even how to respond but never how to carry the load.
Life is all about moments, about emotions, about accomplishments, but mostly, about transitions.
“When we were children, we only worried about food and play, then school started for some and so did the homework. Every year was a new experience, and every experience left a new mark.”
Puberty was such a hard time to pass. It was a moment of encounter and discovery. It lead us through several moments of oddness and disgust, but it also left us with memorable circumstances where we found our inner self.
As we grew older, we became fond of our surroundings and our identity. We began to develop different habits that coped with our lives.
But, just as anything else, some moments were exciting, others monotonous and others empty. Remember?
Many say that our early years of education are some of the most pivotal times of our lives because it is through them that we acquire unique familial moral values that will shape the route of our lives. During our early years, a school project was something exciting to start; we had our parents to help us. Getting things done was an easy task to accomplish because we knew we were not alone. But as time progressed we grew and so did the responsibilities.
We started to become a part of a cycle where life started to shift in a new direction, a new perspective.
Everything started to change. It finally came, the time of our lives where we make the most critical choices that will forever construct or destroy our lives – adulthood. Our values make us unique in shape and in form, but circumstances of anxiety and incomprehension can drive us into the zone of distress and discomfort.
“ I am overwhelmed with the many things around my life: family, school, work, responsibilities and timing.”
Dealing with everyday responsibilities includes managing our time and effort into putting every detail in motion, every circumstance in its place and every task on its track.
On the other hand, dealing with emotions and unexpected issues such as financial distress or personal relationships becomes problematic. In these strenuous circumstances, many of us tend to block ourselves from the rest. We think that we can solve our problems by isolating and thus, start engaging into a road with a heavier load that seems to have no ending.
“I hear constant noises about the different experiences which surround me, but I can’t sense them. I see myself dancing around the possibilities but I keep nothing. I try to capture the best, still I capture nothing. I know about the constant pressures that come and go, but I just can’t ignore all the arguments that revolve around me. I have to visualize myself in constant relief, but sometimes it’s just too hard to get over the arguments at hand.”
The transition to adulthood is an impacting moment because we fall into the trap of idealizing a solution to our problems versus purposely acting upon their resolution. It’s when we are measured by our capabilities as problem solvers.
As human beings we must never stop listening or learning; we must never keep shut or ignorant, but most importantly we must never give up. It is up to us to continue the path we chose regardless of the difficulties we face through our enforced family-ethical background.