Confessions of a Graduate: Part 3
Hello again this next blog is all about this simple topic: expectations.
Ever since we are kids and follow our journey to adulthood, we see this cloud of expectations that have followed us around like a shadow, whether you asked for them or not.
When you were a child ( and growing to be a teen to a young adult) you have to do what your family, teachers, and friends (only close friends aka best friends) tell you to do which most of the time help you to become a better version of yourself.
That’s where you find a part of who you are as a person, your personality shows up and you get the social interaction you need.
However, what happens when that circle breaks because you move to another country?
Let me tell you is not as fun as you think…let me explain that out, before you migrate from your birth country to a new one.
You had plans that you wanted to complete, you had friends that you made along the way, you even meet a special someone.
However, when you made the decision to start over with not a solid plan in place, not an understanding of the new culture, and definitely not a background on the new language. You my friend are setting yourself for a roller coaster ride.
In my case, I was living a regular childhood back in my birth country. Many of my classmates had someone living in the United States that provided the main income for the household.
My expectations back then were as regular as any other person…go to school, have friends, think on your future career (so you don’t have to leave your country to go to the U.S.)
All that change once my parents decided that we had to move to the United States of America for a better future (a better life).
In my personal case,that decision blew all my expectations and plans for my future.
Once I landed in this country the expectations were completely different…now my siblings and I had to compete for a change to become something bigger than our past generations.
Back then I just saw the whole thing as a plot from a comedy movie from the U.S. where the main character moves to America …than he struggles to find his path but eventually succeeds to overcome many of the issues he encounters. .
My expectations were simple back in my country, you graduated from college, find a good career that pays well, maybe find a partner to have a family.
Here in the U.S. have more than just one way to do things…you can have the simple life like in your country or you can choose to have other goals.
Such as, become a business owner, run for office, work opportunities, etc. etc. etc.
For me, I did chose the education journey where I encountered a lot of different people who showed me the way to go. I challenged many expectations that this system had on me without even knowing. Most importantly, I did get the education that my parents wanted me to get, so no one can take that away from me.
Did I suffer through this journey? Yes…did I want it to quit and come back to my birth country? Absolutely…did I question my parents for making me go through this whole thing? Yes, yes, yes.
However, now I see what I could not see back then…that this whole journey was an opportunity for me to rise above this whole journey to become something bigger than myself and to clear the path for a new generation that would have to face other challenges in order to succeed with their future.
For me these days, is all about embracing as many opportunities as I can. Focus on the issues I can fix rather than just walk around the bushes and not being ashamed of asking for help…again thank you for this space and I will see you around people.
Note: no quote this time…however I did see something interesting on an instagram story
‘You’re not stuck. You’re just committed to certain patterns of behavior because they helped you in the past. Now those behaviors have become more harmful than helpful. The reason why you can’t move forward is because you keep applying an old formula to a new level in your life. Change the formula to get a different result.’